Date: September 23, 2007
Sermon Title: “Husbands Dwell with Your Wives.”
Opening Thoughts
A Man must be an example to his wife and children in the home with regard to the things of God.
We are His (Christ) bride (gender does not matter). We are joined to Him. He teaches us how to walk and how to talk. We need to fall in love with God and get to know Him.
Key Points
Scripture(s): 1Pet 3:7-8
Husbands dwell with (live with) your wife. The wife is sensitive. So the husbands must be sensitive to their needs.
Marriage is a God idea! This is how God deals with us in relation to Him. The way you love your wife is in direct connection with how you love God.
Love = Action. It is something I do and not just something I say.
Our daily life displays our love. For example, you can’t beat your wife and then say, “I love her.”
When you come to God. You are coming to a marriage. It is a covenant with God.
Since the husband dwells with the wife, you need to find out her desire. For example, you may prepare a hot bath for your wife with candles and find out the wife does not like hot baths. The husband may get hurt but you can’t make your desire her desire. We have to learn to make adjustments and/or changes with our wives.
Men must consider their ways with their wives.
A Godly husband dwells (shares things with) with their wife. He is not her roommate.
A Godly Husband understands that he must establish a healthy household.
The following are examples of a Godly Husband:
A Godly Husband must dwell and understand his wife. This requires you to take out time with your wife. The same with God. You need to take the time to get to know God.
A Godly Husband must understand the wife’s needs and understand her.
In order for a Godly Man to understand his wife, he must go deeper.
A Godly Husband must Give Honor to his wife. Not stepping on her by saying, “Do what I say.” When you give honor you don’t damage them in any kind of way. You honor the wife as unto the weaker vessel. This means the husband is weak; she is just weaker!Back in Roman Times if the woman committed adultery you could kill her on the spot. They were treated like dogs. They were given the worst jobs to do and treated as being easily disposed of. Whatever the man dished out the wife had to take. What Peter began to speak at this time was unheard of, his teachings were considered radical! This was during the age where women did not speak unless the husband spoke to them first.
When God said the woman was a weaker vessel. He was saying the woman wasn’t built to do everything like the man.
Peter was saying the wife was equal to the husband in the things of God. Spiritually you are the same heirs (husband and wife) and will inherit the same blessings.
(Vs. 8) In order for the husband and wife to make it, they to have to have one mind. You both need to go in the same direction. If the husband says, “this is what we’re going to do.” The wife must go with the husband and not push against him.
The husband must have compassion for his wife and love on her.
Scripture(s): Ephesians 5:25-28
The standard in how you love your wife is with Christ!
Christ takes care of us, He forgives us. Therefore, she (wife) can do no wrong. For example, look at what we did to Christ. He forgave us and cleansed us.As the husband teaches the wife the word of God it cleanses her.
Husbands need to pray before they take action in regard to their wives. Only God can change a woman’s heart for the benefit of the home.
The husband is the pastor and head shepherd of the Home.
For example, if you (husband) don’t pray during the week, then the wife won’t pray and read the word during the week.
The husband is responsible for feeding his wife the word of God. You (husband) have to be the man of the house and take control and establish some things in the things of God.Husbands don’t love your wife on how she treats you, but love her on the basis of how you love God.
Husband’s love your wife the way you love yourself. You won’t dog out yourself. Take care of her (wife) like Christ loved the Church.
How a husband loves himself is how he will love his wife. If you dislike yourself, then you will dislike your wife. If you don’t have confidence in yourself, then she will not have confidence in you.